The Art Of Happiness Book Summary, by Dalai Lama, Howard C. Cutler

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Big Idea #1: You don’t have to be religious, to have spiritual values.

My uncle’s body will be cremated. I think it is a widely spread, religious practice that many cultures use, including Western or Eastern ones.

I’m not religious, but I do believe in spirituality. My family is a mix of atheists and believers, so that’s why I don’t know much about it.

The Dalai Lama says that it doesn’t matter if you belong to a religion or not, because your beliefs don’t have to be religious.

He believes in being a good person, caring for others, and practicing spirituality.

Yesterday, the author spent a lot of time thinking. He took a long walk with his roommate and they discussed life. His Mum called him as well as his cousin.

Each person deals with suffering in their own way. There is no right or wrong way to do it, and everyone has their own unique method of dealing with difficulties.

Spirituality is about seeing the bigger picture, understanding that there’s a reason for everything, and learning from both good and bad things.

I can only do so after I have learned the lessons.

What does being spiritual mean to you?

Don’t Listen to Other People

Big Idea #2: Everything changes.

When asked about suffering, the Dalai Lama said that we make a big mistake by thinking that it is unnatural.

The author says that suffering is a part of life, but we shouldn’t blame ourselves for it.

Change is the only Constant

It’s contradictory to say that we have to learn how to let go, but it’s true.

People who resist change are unhappy. In fact, it is the root cause of unhappiness.

Once you accept the fact that change is inevitable, you can deal with it and find meaning in it.

You can complain about slamming your car door, being frustrated by a slow cashier or crying for hours after losing someone you love.

But if you’re not happy with the situation, then change it. Once you accept that change is necessary and make progress, happiness will follow.

Big Idea #3: Know your abilities.

There are many ways to build confidence. Most of them involve challenging yourself, and mine does too.

The Dalai Lama has a great point of view about knowing your limits.

Be honest with yourself and others about what you know. If you’re okay with not knowing everything, then admit it.

Instead of trying to build confidence through superficial means, we should instead focus on building it from the inside.

If you don’t understand something, ask for clarification. People will explain again.

In order to be okay with your limits, you must know what they are. Self-awareness is required for that.

So, it’s important to be honest with yourself and assess your strengths and weaknesses. What are you good at? What do you suck at?

It’s important to be honest with yourself and the world around you.

Full Summary of The Art Of Happiness

Part I. The Purpose of Life

Chapter 1: The Right to Happiness

“The purpose of life is to seek happiness. Whether you believe in religion or not, we all are searching for something better in our lives. Therefore, the goal of life is to find happiness.” (13). This statement was made by the Dalai Lama at a conference he attended. Chapter one introduces what this book is about: The Art of Happiness.

Psychiatrist Howard Cutler followed the Dalai Lama around on this tour. Cutler, as well as many of his patients, believed that happiness was ill defined and ungraspable. The word happy is derived from luck or chance. His stance changed after spending time with the peace leader.

“When I say ‘training the mind,’ I’m not referring to just your intellect. Rather, it’s a combination of intellect and feelings that make up your mind. By practicing certain disciplines we can change our attitude and outlook on life.”

The Dalai Lama once said that the purpose of life is to seek happiness. After studying previous experiments, he found that unhappy people tend to be self-focused, withdrawn and antagonistic. On the other hand, happy people are more sociable and flexible; they can easily tolerate daily frustrations.

The Dalai Lama views happiness as a goal that people set for themselves and work towards achieving. This creates happiness in the process.

Chapter 2: The Sources of Happiness

Chapter 1 talks about how we can train our minds to be happier. Chapter 2 explains that we have a baseline level of happiness, and we may experience happiness or unhappiness depending on external events. For example, one woman retires at age 32 but is soon back to her normal level of happiness; another man gets diagnosed with HIV, which lowers his level of happiness but he later appreciates life more than before. These examples show us that even when things go wrong in our lives, they eventually return to their normal state and the baseline level stays the same (21).

The book explains how people compare themselves with others and within themselves. People who do this will be unhappy because they’re comparing their income, which doesn’t make them happy in the end. The Dalai Lama says that if we think about those who are less fortunate than us, then we can appreciate what we have (22-23). We are born into a certain state of mind about happiness, but it’s possible to change our outlook by being happier in each moment. For example, self-worth is having a source of affection and compassion for ourselves as well as dignity (32). In order to find happiness without finding material things, we need contentment. If something brings us pleasure or happiness without negative consequences when dealing with positive actions or objects then it should bring us satisfaction (28).

Chapter 3: Training the Mind for Happiness

The first step to controlling your mind is learning. You should analyze thoughts and emotions to determine if they’re helpful or harmful. If you know something might tempt you, avoid it. Positive desires are good.

Chapter 4: Reclaiming our Innate State of Happiness

Everyone is born with a natural ability to be happy. Happiness can be found through love, affection, closeness and compassion. Not only do humans have the capability of being happy, but also Buddhism says that we all have an inner gentleness in us. The Dalai Lama supports this theory by mentioning Buddha nature (the Buddhist doctrine), which means that gentleness is not only affected by religion but everyday life as well. With gentleness comes aggression; people argue that aggression is the dominant behavior for human beings because they’re frustrated at not getting what they want: love and affection. However, overall our fundamental nature is gentleness rather than aggression when you look at it more closely and deeply into ourselves. This suggests the idea that humans are “programmed with the capacity and purpose of bringing pleasure and joy to others”. Therefore happiness can be reached by keeping peace with others through meditation or community service so one’s self becomes more peaceful as well creating a positive atmosphere around oneself making it easier to find peace within oneself giving your life meaning which leads to overall happiness

Part II. Human Warmth and Compassion

Chapter 5: A New Model for Intimacy

Compassion and intimacy are two of the strongest emotions a person can achieve. It is impossible to find these emotions solely within ourselves, because we need others in order to feel compassion or be intimate with them. To have compassion for another, one must approach others with an open mind and positive attitude; this will lead to friendships that create a happy life (Dalai Lama 69).

Intimacy is the cornerstone of our existence. It allows us to connect with others in a meaningful way, which leads to healthier relationships and happier lives. The Dalai Lama said that intimacy means having one special person with whom you can share your deepest thoughts, fears, etc. (76). Cutler also supports this idea by saying that people who have close friendships are more likely to survive health challenges such as heart attacks and cancer (78). Intimacy is also physical closeness; it’s sharing yourself completely with someone else. “The desire for intimacy is the desire to share one’s innermost self with another.” (Dalai Lama 81) One can express oneself too much though; after opening up completely to everyone, there may be no special intimacy left between two people because they’ve shared everything about themselves already. “The model of intimacy is based on willingness—the willingness—to open ourselves up not only to many others but even … strangers” (Dalai Lama 84). By opening ourselves up so much we’re able to form new bonds or deepen existing ones with someone new through openness and honesty.

Chapter 6: Deepening Our Connection to Others

According to Chapter 5, Howard C. Cutler also asks The Dalai Lama a question about connections and relationships between people: “What would you say is the most effective method or technique of connecting with others in a meaningful way and of reducing conflicts with others?” The Dalai Lama says that there is no formula or exact example for all problems.(87) He believes that empathy is the key to be more warm and compassionate in connections to others. He thinks that it’s important to try putting ourselves in other people’s shoes and see how we’d react if we were them. To show compassion and try understanding their background. Cutler also writes some stories/experiences from his life as examples when he was wrong without trying empathizing first – no empathy

The Dalai Lama also emphasizes the importance of relationships. However, he differentiates them in two ways: firstly, a relationship based on material things like wealth and power; secondly, spiritual relationships that are built upon feelings and respect for each other. He also talks about sexual relationships and how they can be used to satisfy physical needs rather than emotional ones.

The Dalai Lama then goes on to talk about relationships. He says that people have the idea of falling in love, but he doesn’t believe in it because it’s an unrealistic fantasy. However, he says that intimacy and closeness are important components of happiness.

According to Chapter 6, the Dalai Lama clearly explains his opinions on relationships and empathy. He tries to explain them in a simple way. These are the most important topics discussed in Chapter 6. It’s found out that empathy is needed for good human relationships, as well as understanding the emotional background of others. Relationships can be either materially or spiritually based. On the other hand, love is described by the Dalai Lama as a fantasy and imagination but he believes that true relationships are based on real feelings. All these new information relate back to Chapter 7 which discusses compassion and its value and benefits.

Chapter 7: The Value and Benefits of Compassion

This chapter defines compassion and the value of human life. Compassion is defined as an emotion that does not cause harm to others or yourself, but instead helps you connect with others on a deeper level. There are two types of compassion: one based in attachment and one based in fundamental rights. The first type creates emotional attachments that are biased and unstable, while the second type of compassion arises from your recognition of another’s suffering and gives you a desire to help them out. Genuine compassion is much stronger than associating it with emotional attachments because it creates a special connection between people who share this feeling.

The Dalai Lama believes that compassion is critical in human survival. People reflect off of their own experiences and knowledge. If people are ignorant or shortsighted, they don’t understand the importance of having a compassionate mindset. This can be caused by not seeing the physical and emotional benefits of having a compassionate mindset. When one completely understands the importance of compassion, then it gives them determination to have a more compassionate mindset.

There have been numerous studies that support the idea that developing compassion and altruism has a positive impact on our physical and emotional health. These studies conclude that there is a direct correlation between compassion and physical and emotional health. The next chapter discusses how to cope with suffering, from the loss of a loved one.

Part III. Transforming Suffering

Chapter 8: Facing Suffering

Throughout this chapter, the Dalai Lama gives examples of different people who have suffered in their lives. He notes that we are all going to suffer at some point, so it is better to prepare yourself for the suffering you might experience than to be caught off guard by it. You can do this by recognizing that everyone goes through suffering and thinking about how you would like to deal with your own suffering when the time comes. If you come up with a plan ahead of time for dealing with your own personal tragedies, then when they occur, it will be easier for you to get over them and move on with your life happier knowing that things could have been worse. The Buddhist believes that if one’s mind is clear of negative thoughts such as anger or hatred, there will no longer be any reason for anyone in life to suffer from those feelings anymore because everything around us would seem beautiful and peaceful without having anything bad happen ever again.

Suffering is a difficult thing to overcome. There are people who can help you do that, though. Everyone has to go through suffering at some point in their life, but how they handle it shows what kind of person they are and whether or not they will be able to get over the pain and move on with their lives. The way someone perceives life as a whole plays an important role in overcoming suffering because if you think your situation is permanent then there’s no way for you to get past it. However, if you remove the causes of your pain and live a happier lifestyle then there’s a possibility that you can free yourself from suffering.

Chapter 9: Self-Created Suffering

Chapter 10: Shifting Perspective

The Dalai Lama, a Buddhist monk and spiritual leader of Tibet, discusses the value of patience in this chapter. He begins by quoting himself: “You can change your attitude to some extent if you want to.” This is followed with many quotes from the Dalai Lama about changing one’s view or perspective in life. The author also explores how practical these ideas are today. One big part of this chapter was the talk about finding balance. The Dalai Lama talks about how living well has to do with a big part of having balance in your life. He also talks about how you need both physical and emotional balance in your life; he thinks that narrow-minded people are those who go to extremes with things and it results in trouble for them.

Chapter 11: Finding Meaning in Pain and Suffering

Chapter ten discusses how to look at situations from a different perspective. Chapter eleven talks about finding meaning in pain and suffering. Victor Frankl was a psychiatrist who was imprisoned by the Nazis during World War II, and he observed that those who survived did so not because of youth or physical strength but because they were able to find purpose in their suffering. The ability to find meaning in our suffering can help us cope with difficult times, even when things are going well for us too. For many people, this search starts with religion; they give examples of Buddhist and Hindu models where trust allows you to tolerate your suffering more easily. Having pain can strengthen you in many ways: it can test your faith; it can bring you closer to God; or it may loosen the bonds on materialism if we turn toward God as our refuge (our shelter).

In the Mahayana tradition, practitioners visualize taking on others’ suffering and giving them all their good fortune. This helps you realize that your own situation isn’t as bad as it seems. By reflecting on how much worse other people have it than you, you develop a greater sense of empathy for them. It also gives you more resolve to end the causes of suffering in yourself and others through positive actions like generosity and compassion. When we feel pain or anguish ourselves, we can relate better to what other people are going through. Paul Brand went to India where he saw so many sick people who were very poor but still had a great attitude about life because they didn’t know any better (207). If they hadn’t felt physical pain then they wouldn’t have known something was wrong with their bodies when there really was something wrong with them—they’d stick their hands into fires just because they couldn’t tell anything was wrong! Not every practice works for everyone; some may find one thing helps while another doesn’t work at all, but everyone has to figure out his or her own way of dealing with suffering by turning it into a positive feedback loop.”

Part IV. Overcoming Obstacles

Chapter 12: Bringing About Change

The Dalai Lama is going to change the way we think about pain and suffering.

Chapter 13: Dealing with Anger and Hatred

The Dalai Lama says that in order to deal with anger, we should think positive thoughts.

Chapter 14: Dealing with Anxiety and Building Self-Esteem

He also says to build self-esteem, we should have friends and be happy throughout our lives. He takes an example of a kid who was kidnapped but the kid said he would call the police.

Part V. Closing Reflections on Living a Spiritual Life

Chapter 15: Basic Spiritual Values

In the beginning of the chapter, it discusses how happiness has many different components. Happiness is more than just wealth and physical health; there are other aspects that contribute to our overall well-being. The book mentions that we need to understand what makes us truly happy and focus on cultivating those things in our lives. It then introduces us to spirituality as part of this holistic approach toward happiness.

The author mentions that there are many people who think of spirituality as being religious. He says this is not the case, and he talks about how when a person thinks of religion they immediately think of God and other things like that. The author then goes on to mention an example where someone who has a shaved head and wears robes can have normal conversations with others without having those thoughts in their mind.

The Dalai Lama says that developing our mental processes is the key to transformation. We should appreciate our potential as human beings and recognize the importance of inner change. He talks about how there are two different levels of spirituality, one relating to religion and another level for those who don’t adhere to a particular faith but have their own spiritual practices.

Lama says that all religions can contribute to making the world a better place. They are designed to make individuals happier and we should respect them.

In the chapter about faith, he tells a story about a man named Terry Anderson who was kidnapped off the streets in Beirut in 1985. After seven years of being held as a prisoner by Hezbollah, a group of Islamic fundamentalist extremists, he was finally released. The world found him to be overjoyed and happy to be reunited with his family and said that religion got him through those seven years (303).

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