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Overview

The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson offers a whole-brain approach to parenting, which emphasizes the importance of integrating four quadrants of a child’s brain in both challenging and joyous moments. The authors recommend 12 strategies for applying this approach based on current research into brain development from birth to age 12. This book is geared toward helping children become more balanced and healthy overall with a heightened capacity for self-awareness, empathy, relationship building, etcetera.

Most parents want their children to be resilient, happy and productive. However, parenting is difficult because kids have tantrums, fears and other challenges. The whole-brain approach helps with these issues by using knowledge of the brain in order to handle those situations effectively so that children can develop a stronger social emotional foundation for later life.

The book ”The Whole-Brain Child”, which was published in 2011, became a New York Times bestseller. It has been translated into 22 languages.

Key Takeaways

When a child is upset, it’s important to first connect with their feelings and then introduce logical thinking.

When children are frightened or hurt, they can use their upstairs brain to make sense of the experience. By appealing to the analytical part of the brain, parents can help mitigate difficulties caused when a child gets stuck in an emotional response. The upstairs brain is not fully developed until people reach adulthood and physical movement can affect how it works by restoring balance between both parts of the brain.

For children who have experienced distress, it helps if they talk about what happened. Encouraging them to recall events can help them integrate memories and encourages storytelling. Parents should emphasize that feelings are temporary and do not define the child. Casual questions can help children become mindful of their experience.

Fun experiences increase dopamine, a chemical that motivates people to seek rewards.

Parents can encourage their children to use both sides of their brains in conflicts by helping them see other people’s perspectives.

Key Takeaway 1: When children are upset and having a right-brained, emotional reaction, parents should first connect to the child’s emotional state. Once the child has calmed down, the parent should introduce a left-brained, logical perspective.

Analyze

When a child has an emotional reaction to something, it’s best to respond rationally instead of emotionally. Otherwise, the child will become more upset because he or she will feel that you’re not understanding his or her feelings. By connecting with the child on an emotional level and calming him/her down, you’ll be helping them develop their rational side and integrate both sides of their brain.

For example, a young girl might be upset with her aunt for having to leave. She might say, “You never spend any time with me!” But this statement is really stemming from the fact that she’s sad and missing her aunt. The aunt should not start off by telling her niece the facts (that they just spent five hours together). Instead she should validate those feelings and offer some nurturing words. Then, once the niece feels better about herself, she can use her rational mind to think of something else that will make them both happy before leaving.

Key Takeaway 2: When children are frightened or hurt, encouraging them to narrate the experience can help them use their left brain to make sense of their emotional currents.

Analysis:

By using the left brain to apply words and rationale to an emotional or right-brain situation, children can gain control over their emotions because they’ve put them into verbal terms that they can understand. This allows them to feel less overwhelmed by the experience.