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In Talking to Strangers: What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know (2019), journalist Malcolm Gladwell searches for the underlying causes of our miscommunications. He was inspired by a black woman who was pulled over by a white police officer for a minor traffic infraction in 2015. She should have been let go with a warning; instead, an encounter escalated until she was arrested and put in jail, where she killed herself a few days later.
There were allegations of racism and misconduct following Bland’s suicide. Gladwell, however, believes that there is more to the story because he thinks that something fundamentally flawed happened in those interactions between strangers. He draws upon research from the social sciences to explain why each of these episodes happened the way they did.
The first section of the book presents a couple of puzzles that will be addressed later. The author gives examples about how people are deceived by others, such as some CIA agents being fooled by double agents and Neville Chamberlain being fooled by Hitler. He also discusses Levine’s theory on why we assume that most strangers are telling the truth. It takes significant evidence to convince us otherwise, but this is for our own good since it allows people to get away with certain crimes for years at a time without ever getting caught.
In Part 3, Gladwell discusses how we often assume that people are transparent. We think that if we can observe someone’s facial expressions and body language, then we’ll know what they’re thinking or feeling. However, this is not always the case; sometimes our assumptions about others’ emotions aren’t accurate. For example, investigators were convinced Amanda Knox was guilty of murder because her behavior seemed to indicate guilt (for example: she appeared nervous). But in reality she wasn’t guilty at all—she was just nervous because she didn’t know what else to do while being interrogated. In addition, many people mistakenly thought their sexual partner had given consent for sex when they actually hadn’t agreed to it; these partners were simply acting as if they had consented by initiating sexual activity themselves.
In the case of a terrorist who was interrogated for years, it has been deemed that he confessed to many things even though no one knows if they actually happened. Gladwell argues that instead of trying to figure out how to get people to tell us everything we want them to, we should accept that it’s impossible and focus on doing the things we can do well.
Part 5 studies the conditions that affect a person’s behavior. Suicide rates are tied to the availability of suicide methods, and crime is tied to particular locations. When talking with strangers, we often don’t consider such contextual factors. In the final chapter, Gladwell returns to Sandra Bland’s story and notes how mistakes were made in her encounter with police officers. The officer failed to default to truth when interacting with Bland; instead he treated her as suspicious. He also failed to realize that she was agitated because she was suffering from PTSD due to an assault earlier in life. He didn’t consider anything about Bland’s world either—the fact that she had just moved across country for a new job or what it meant for her family back home.
These are the same kinds of mistakes we make when communicating with strangers. It’s important to recognize that we tend to judge people based on the slightest clues, and these decisions often lead us astray. Gladwell argues that this tendency is unavoidable, and that it should be accepted as a fact about human nature. Talking to Strangers is a book about how we should have more humility and self-awareness when talking with people we don’t know.
Full Summary of Talking to Strangers
The following version of this book was used to create the guide: Gladwell, Malcolm. Talking to Strangers: What We Should Know About the People We Don’t Know. Little, Brown and Company, 2019. This book is divided into five parts that include 12 chapters in total each sectioned off by numbers that form a compare and contrast argument style.
In the introduction, “Step out of the car!”, Gladwell tells us about Sandra Bland and a Texas State Trooper’s encounter. She had just moved to Prairie View from Illinois and was unfamiliar with her surroundings. The trooper noticed that she wasn’t familiar with where she was going, so he pulled her over for not signaling before changing lanes. Their interaction grew volatile when Encinia forcefully removed Bland from her car because he thought she was being uncooperative. He then called for backup and arrested her for resisting arrest. Three days later, Bland committed suicide in jail after spending three days there without any contact from family or friends. Gladwell wants to know what went wrong in this situation through his book Talking To Strangers.
In Part 1, Gladwell talks about the CIA and Fidel Castro. The CIA had so many spies in Cuba that they were oblivious to the fact that all of them were actually working for Castro. In Part 2, Hitler made a deal with Chamberlain where he promised not to invade Czechoslovakia if Chamberlain allowed him to take over Sudetenland. However, Hitler broke his promise and invaded anyway. These stories show us how hard it is for humans to know when someone is lying or telling the truth because people are really good at pretending like they’re honest even though they’re not.
In Part 2: “Default to Truth,” Gladwell introduces psychologist Tim Levine’s theory. Levine states that people generally believe those they interact with are honest. To doubt someone, the person must have a significant amount of reason to do so. Belief and doubt go hand in hand, as illustrated by stories of double agent Ana Montes and sexual abusers Jerry Sandusky and Larry Nassar. People didn’t want to believe these three were guilty because they had no evidence against them; therefore, they dismissed the allegations against them.
In Part 3: “Transparency,” Gladwell uses a scene from the popular sitcom Friends to explain the idea of transparency. In this scene, Rachel is trying on her wedding dress and everyone can see how happy she is. The audience can tell by watching her facial expressions and body language that she’s in love with Ross. However, not all people are like Rachel; some people aren’t so easy to read because their emotions don’t match up with what they’re saying (like Amanda Knox). When Knox was studying abroad in Italy, she got into an argument with her roommate Meredith Kercher about toilet paper being taken out of the shared bathroom. Later on that night, Meredith was murdered and Knox became a suspect. She didn’t act like someone who had just lost their best friend would behave – which made police officers suspicious of her guiltiness. Because there wasn’t any physical evidence linking Knox to the crime scene or murder weapon, police decided they needed more proof before arresting her for murder – but at this point it was too late for them to find anything else since most evidence had been cleaned away by housekeepers after discovering Meredith’s body when coming into work early one morning.
In Part 4, “Lessons,” Gladwell examines the capture and interrogation of Al Qaeda member Khalid Sheikh Mohammed. He suggests that torture may not work as well as we think it does because tortured people are so traumatized they can’t remember anything. And even if they do tell the truth, he says, their minds have been so warped by trauma that their memories are unreliable anyway.
In this part, Gladwell talks about the idea of coupling. Coupling is a concept that explains why people do what they do in certain situations. For example, if someone has an easy way to commit suicide and is depressed enough to want to kill themselves, then they will probably commit suicide. Another example would be that if two people are arguing with each other and neither one can put themselves into the other’s shoes, then their argument will escalate until somebody does something violent like pushing or hitting someone else.
Section 0 Summary (Introduction – Part 1: Spies and Diplomats: Two Puzzles)
The author describes the controversial cases he will be covering in his book, Talking to Strangers. He says that one of these cases involves Sandra Bland, and that he will explore other similar encounters between strangers by looking at her case.
The author of the book tells the story of a Cuban intelligence agent who defected. The man was eventually captured and taken to Germany, where he told another officer about all of the double agents in Cuba. He also said that Castro had sent some people to Washington, D.C., so they could be celebrated for their work with the CIA. The other officers were confused because this information contradicted what they knew about those specific spies from Cuba’s government. They wondered how it was possible that these individuals had fooled everyone else into thinking they were on their side when in reality they worked for Castro.
The author tells the story of Neville Chamberlain, who was convinced he could stop Adolf Hitler from invading Sudetenland by meeting with him. After several meetings, Chamberlain announced how impressed he was by Hitler and believed him to be trustworthy. He noted that Hitler had a charming demeanor and congenial mannerisms in order to prove his trustworthiness.
The author compares Chamberlain’s actions and impressions to those of a judge looking into the eyes of his defendants. Next, he displays how flawed judges’ convictions often are and then uses findings from Mullainathan studies to show how computers can be more accurate than humans at evaluating criminals. Finally, the author discusses Hitler’s invasion into Czechoslovakia shortly after Chamberlain made an agreement with him.
Gladwell says people often think they can read strangers based on first impressions, but psychologist Emily Pronin showed that this is not the case. She developed a test to show that we cannot actually read the intentions and hearts of others. Based on her examples, Gladwell argues that we are unable to truly know what other people think about us or how they feel about us.